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Embracing the New Year

Embracing the New Year

Embracing Boundaries—Focusing on What Truly Matters 

Divorce is a time of significant upheaval and change. Amid the emotional rollercoaster, it’s easy to get bogged down by endless details and decisions, many of which can feel overwhelming. In Episode 176 of Life After Divorce Coaching, we explore the liberating power of setting boundaries, focusing on what truly matters, and accepting the things you can’t change. Drawing inspiration from Mark Manson’s bestselling book, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fck*, this episode offers practical advice for reclaiming your energy and creating a meaningful new chapter.

The Importance of Boundaries

One of the first steps to rebuilding after divorce is learning how to set clear, healthy boundaries. Whether it’s with your ex-partner, family, or friends, boundaries help you protect your mental and emotional well-being.

Boundaries aren’t about shutting people out; they’re about ensuring that your energy is spent on things that align with your values and future goals. It’s okay to say no. It’s okay to walk away from conversations or situations that drain you. By establishing boundaries, you’re carving out space to focus on the things that genuinely matter.

Choosing Where to Focus your Energy

Inspired by The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fck*, this episode emphasizes the power of selective focus. Manson’s philosophy teaches us that we have a limited number of “f*cks” to give, so we must choose wisely. In the context of divorce, this means letting go of battles and grudges that don’t serve your long-term happiness.

Ask yourself:

  • Does this truly matter in the big picture?
  • Will it impact my happiness or stability in five years?
  • Am I holding on to this out of anger or fear?

By answering these questions honestly, you can start redirecting your energy toward areas that genuinely matter—your well-being, relationships with your children, financial stability, and personal growth.

The Freedom in Acceptance

Acceptance doesn’t mean you condone what happened or give up on your dreams. It’s about acknowledging what you can and cannot control. This mindset shift allows you to let go of resentment and focus on what you can influence: your future.

Here are some ways to practice acceptance:

  • Recognize your limits. There are things you simply cannot change, like the past or your ex’s actions.
  • Reframe your perspective. Instead of dwelling on what’s lost, focus on what you’ve gained—freedom, clarity, and a chance to rebuild.
  • Practice gratitude. Acknowledge the positive aspects of your life, no matter how small they seem.

Putting it All Together

Navigating life after divorce is challenging, but it’s also an opportunity to redefine your priorities. By setting boundaries, choosing where to focus your energy, and embracing acceptance, you can move forward with purpose and clarity.

As discussed in this episode, the path to healing is about more than survival—it’s about thriving. And thriving starts with learning to let go of the things that no longer serve you, so you can focus on building a life filled with meaning and joy.

Tune in to Episode 176 of Life After Divorce Coaching to hear real-life examples, actionable tips, and empowering insights that will help you embrace this transformative journey.

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