Ep. 182 – Divorce & Exercise, The Perfect Marriage

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Jeff
Hello, everybody out there. Welcome to episode 182, where during an hour, we’ll be discussing how divorce can be a perfect time for a body reset. So if you are ready, let’s get started. Hi, Doreen. How are you? Great. Looking good as always. Very beautiful. Wow.

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Doreen
You’re so sweet. We have. Haven’t.

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Jeff
Body reset. Body reset.

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Doreen
I think this says divorce is the perfect time to think about a body reset.

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Jeff
That’s right. That’s what we’re talking about.

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Doreen
Yeah, but I think I want to explain that it’s not just about, you know, what your body looks like and your health, but it’s also about, you know, using exercise and health and nutrition to reduce stress. Feel better, like, get those endorphins.

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Jeff
Yeah.

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Doreen
All that going on. So let’s talk. Why don’t we start first with talking a little bit about how or if you used health and exercise when you were going through your divorce.

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Jeff
Well, when I was going through my divorce, it was already my lifestyle. I spent many years in the martial arts, teaching the martial arts training in the martial arts. And it wasn’t a, if I wanted to go, I could go. It was something that I was there. It was part of my job.

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Jeff
It was part of my lifestyle. So not that I didn’t enjoy it. I loved every moment of it. But the the lifestyle of a martial artist was something I’d already experienced. So the fitness, the mental, the emotional, the, the goal setting, the discipline was already a part of my life.

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Doreen
Right? So the body reset, your body was already reset.

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Jeff
Well.

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Doreen
I mean, think about when you were going through your divorce because you were starting martial arts. That was your career at the point eventually, the two martial arts schools.

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Jeff
Yes.

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Doreen
And so when you were going through the divorce, that was just part of what you did on a daily basis, because as part of your job.

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Jeff
Correct.

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Doreen
So you weren’t even thinking about it.

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Jeff
I wasn’t thinking about the side. Well, we were always practicing the principle of can I, which is constant and never ending improvement. So even though you’re at a level of fitness, you’re always working to improve yourself.

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Doreen
Yeah. I think when you’re going through a divorce, or at any challenging time, getting your body up and moving is really important, right? You didn’t even realize that you were doing it. You probably had this effect on your mental state during the divorce that you knew, I mean, stress and all that because I know you were working hard, you know, physically.

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Jeff
Yeah. I mean, there were still days that I didn’t feel like even going to work.

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Doreen
Course, or.

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Jeff
Working out with the team. But, you know, it wasn’t, it wasn’t an option. I knew what would happen if I didn’t go. Yeah, I would have been beat up, but I.

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Doreen
Literally.

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Jeff
Literally.

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Doreen
Literally sparred with.

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Jeff
Right. So I did spar with the, the, the head guy, but, but I used a lot of the sparring to get rid of my tension and my stress trip and made me.

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Doreen
I want to be on the other side of that.

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Jeff
End. Well, no.

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Doreen
It would not be good, because by that point, what degree were.

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Jeff
You, third degree by that.

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Doreen
Okay, now you were fourth degree. Perfect. Yeah, well, I’m trying to think back to when I was going through my divorce. I think that for us, for me, exercise, having some kind of exercise regiment plan was always part of who I was. As long as I can remember. I mean, in our family and with the kids, as we know, physical activity is just built into part of what we do as a family, right?

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Jeff
Sam is an ex NFL football player and, you know, so you still are in a family of athletes.

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Doreen
Yeah for sure. And of course Megan playing D1 volleyball and all that. So we’ve just always been like that. So I, I’m pretty sure that I was probably I’m trying to think back still doing my exercise program, but I know myself well enough to probably speculate that I wasn’t giving it my all, and I probably at certain times felt it was better to just stay under the covers or just not go to work out because, you know, one, it’s like it’s so easy not to do it.

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Doreen
We’re going to talk more about that later in the episode, and how we can kind of realize when, you know, that primitive brain is taking over.

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Jeff
But I also think that because I had to do it, I almost didn’t appreciate that I was doing right.

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Doreen
True.

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Jeff
So in other words, I may have not been getting the I mean, I okay, another class area. I didn’t really get the endorphins, didn’t get the emotional benefit that I was allowing or not allowing to give myself. Yeah. Because I was kind of used to it.

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Doreen
Well, let’s talk about a little bit about what we’re doing now. As far as our own you know health wellness and physical activity.

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Jeff
16 beautiful years later.

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Doreen
We’ve been married. Yes I guess that’s that you’re referring to. Exactly I know, I mean first of all we work out separately. We have we do a lot of things together. You know, everything from, you know, obviously as a couple and we do spend a lot of time together, I think, as far as couples go,and working together and all that.

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Doreen
But our activities are different and that’s on purpose because our physical abilities are different.

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Jeff
Doesn’t a.

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Doreen
I’m definitely a lot stronger than.

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Jeff
You? Absolutely. No.

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Doreen
No, I’m certainly no stronger than you. But, but I because I have.

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Jeff
But I got all the brains.

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Doreen
And

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Jeff
And the beauty and.

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Doreen
No, but seriously. So for me, I don’t have a lot of the ailments that you have. Knock on wood. Right. You’ve had like three back surgeries.

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Jeff
Or back surgeries, shoulder surgery and. Yeah. And of course a brain surgery now.

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Doreen
Yeah. And you’re dealing with it.

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Jeff
Parkinson’s.

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Doreen
And all of that. So I have been blessed in the sense, knock on wood, that I haven’t, although I just found out I have osteoporosis in my right hip, which I kind of knew something was going on.

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Jeff
I mean, for a while.

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Doreen
And it hurts. Yeah, but I do pretty intense yoga. And I love yoga for me personally, because I find that through one hour, I usually do what they call a 60-60 minute class where it’s really vinyasa and it’s fast. And I like it because first of all, I’m getting a huge workout.

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Jeff
But you forgot something. It’s hot.

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Doreen
It’s hot, you hot yoga. And so you’re burning a lot of calories. And I like the heat. Yes, I think it’s very cleansing for me, but I also like that yoga because it’s that mindset and the breath and you’re for me, I’m focused on the next move and my posture and getting my mind, you know, what I’m supposed to be doing?

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Doreen
Like trying to make it as best as I can for that day. So I’m not thinking about all the other crap going on. I’m forced to think about my breath and posture. So I love yoga because of that, because of all the things it gives me. I also do weight training, which I kind of fell off a little bit because we were traveling and I said, it’s an excuse because I will get right back into it.

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Doreen
But I like weight training because I feel like it’s a good balance. Right. And I also, for me personally, I’ve done a lot of research on this, you know, as you get older and how you lose muscle, I think it’s important to have flexibility for yoga and to have muscle, growth. Right. Maintaining muscle. We also started doing pickleball.

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Jeff
We had tried pickleball was not doing enough.

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Doreen
No, we were not good, though.

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Jeff
I would.

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Doreen
Say we suck at.

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Jeff
It. Well, you say that, but every day when we get a little bit better and I go, what shot. Where did that come from? Yeah. You know, you a little bit. You’re very, very, surprising at times. So I think the more often I get lucky. Well, sometimes we create our own luck. And I think that eventually we’ll get better.

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Doreen
Now we will. Like we already started getting better. So I think it’s important to know. What are you doing for exercise now?

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Jeff
Well, I like the weight training as well. It’s very important for my body, my Parkinson’s and my, my height to, to maintain that, structural alignment and maintain muscle.

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Doreen
Yeah.

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Jeff
Of course, you know, we can always talk about the nutrition that comes along with that, with the protein. That’s very.

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Doreen
Important. Not just macros in general. Right.

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Jeff
But I also do I don’t do the hot yoga. I do the nice and air conditioned yoga. Very nice to you. Yes. But what I like about yoga, which is very similar to martial arts, is that it is a blend of the mental and physical.

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Doreen
Yeah, I agree, I.

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Jeff
Mean, yes, it is different where you’re getting strength and you’re getting also flexibility. But when you’re getting a physical workout with a mental benefit, then it’s almost kind of doubles your, expenditure. Two for the price of oil prices.

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Doreen
Yeah. Yes. Yeah. You know, it’s interesting because, having, you know, represented people through divorce for as many years as I have, I, there’s a little kind of joke. It’s called the divorce diet. A lot of times I see people lose a lot of weight very quickly. Which is always to me, concerning as their lawyer. Well, because I’m watching them physically, like, I, I see the weight, you know, coming off.

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Doreen
And I worry that they’re losing weight very quickly. And is it stress related? Is it hormone related. Is it you know, they’re just not eating and taking care of themselves. Sometimes they need to lose weight and that’s a good thing other times. But more, more often than not I see the loss of weight. I do see people sometimes gain weight during divorce, but not as often.

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Doreen
I think that has to do, probably with, buffering. Buffering. Yeah. So a lot of people like to eat when they’re upset, stressed, angry, all the negative emotions they eat to push down my feelings because it’s dopamine here we talk a lot about buffering in other episodes. So I think being aware where where you are in your divorce journey and what that means to you and your diet, your health, your body reset your exercise program, be aware, like, am I really taking good care of myself?

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Doreen
Am I getting my exercise and am I eating healthy? You really need that now when you’re going through this, this time, more so than ever, I think our bodies, of course, are so resilient and we’re not experts on this. But the human body is amazing the way it can really take you through very stressful situations. Right. But let’s take care of it.

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Jeff
So that way you can imagine that, you know, once the divorce is over and you meet this amazing woman of your dreams, you want to be in good shape. You want to be.

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Doreen
Healthy.

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Jeff
Be physically fit. And, you know, there are some benefits to, to fitness during the divorce, I think.

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Doreen
I think that’s common, right? I think a lot of people going through a divorce or a breakup or thinking.

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Jeff
Oh, my.

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Doreen
You look like I look over here or I need to lose a few pounds or maybe, you know, work on this jiggle, jiggle over here or whatever it’s called.

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Jeff
Jingle jangle.

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Doreen
Jingle.

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Jeff
Jingle, jingle.

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Doreen
I don’t know, but.

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Jeff
If you jiggle.

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Doreen
It jiggles. Yeah. So that’s that’s also something that that can motivate you.

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Jeff
Yeah. But also the other thing is, as far as when we talk, go back to the endorphins. When you’re going through a hard time of, such as divorce or any kind of, stressful, stressful, events in real life. Yeah. The endorphins that you feel during a divorce, I mean, during divorce, during and fitness, during an exercise.

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Jeff
Just it’s it’s priceless.

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Doreen
But I have to tell you, I was so stressed coming back from Italy, you know, in the sense of, I love travel, but I also love being home. And I love my routine. I’m kind of a creature of habit in a lot of ways.

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Jeff
Aren’t we all?

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Doreen
Well, I think some people more so than others, but. But I was a little stressed and I remember going to that first class after we got back and I didn’t want to go. I was like, oh, I have so much to do and catch up on and like unpack. And I said, you know what? I’m just going to go in the middle of the whole class.

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Doreen
I was like, I think I might have said it out loud, thank you, God, I am here. And I am so enjoying this. And I so need this, right?

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Jeff
We did get our steps in.

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Doreen
We did get our steps in then when we were traveling. The other thing is, when you are in your workout mode, right, or doing exercise and you come back, even though you may not have wanted to go and you were battling with yourself to get you there, how many times do you say, that definitely wasn’t worth it, right?

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Doreen
It always makes you feel better.

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Jeff
Yeah, right. I think you asked that to me this morning. How often do you feel bad after a workout, right. And I’m like, that was a weird way of asking you, but it was definitely a slap in the face to say. You always feel great.

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Doreen
Yeah, you might feel better. You might feel tired. You might feel like you pushed your body physically. But I think emotionally, well, that’s the endorphins, right? And you mean but you’re feeling better psychologically. So come on, you’re going through divorce. You got to do whatever you can to get yourself in that best possible, you know, mental state and physical state.

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Jeff
It’s kind of a no brainer is kind of a no brainer.

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Doreen
But I think the divorce is a perfect opportunity for this. A body reset, right?

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Jeff
Yeah. Let’s, let’s let’s talk a little bit about the social and the community part of, working out.

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Doreen
Yeah, there’s lots of different things, right?

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Jeff
Yeah. I mean, I did quite a few. Let’s first talk about, you know, you want to find a place that you want to be at, right? You want to, you know, find the type of place where you want to be. Yeah.

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Doreen
The kind of exercise program that is good for you. I talk about yoga. You talk about weight training. We talk about pickleball. They all have various aspects of other parts that they bring to the equation, which are outside the physical part of it. What do I mean by that? Like pickleball is so social. Yes. Right. It’s like all, all the the they call it like competitive.

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Doreen
No, no, I’m talking about like right now it’s like so popular.

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Jeff
Oh yeah.

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Doreen
Right. So there’s so many of these open play clubs and various community places and clubs and primaries and tournaments that you can go to, and you can get that physical activity and learn a new sport, a new a new thing and meet people.

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Jeff
I was going to say I my a new friend, meet people.

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Doreen
Meet people, maybe even meet somebody that you know is romantic in nature.

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Jeff
You never know. You never know.

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Doreen
But if you’re not ready for that, you can also just, you know, join a gym and do your own thing, go workout and put your headphones on and kind of be in your own zone. So I think it’s important to realize, like, what are you really looking for? Not just physically but and mentally, but also socially.

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Jeff
Yeah. And if you want to try yoga, for example, and, you know, you’re maybe a little intimidated by a yoga joint or whatever it is called because they can be a little intimidating.

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Doreen
Yeah. Some places are quite overwhelming.

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Jeff
Maybe you can find a, like a yoga in the park or something a little bit less intimidating, a little less, or a little bit more inviting.

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Doreen
The other thing is the support that you get from just being in a community, you can build a community, right? So for me, when I go to my yoga classes, even though I don’t really have a lot of, social interaction, like, you get on your mat, you say hello to a few people. Of course your in, your yoga instructor is there, but you’re there’s like this sense of community that you’re all there with a common like interest spell.

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Jeff
I have, you.

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Doreen
Know, smelling in there yoga and some people just don’t understand what’s the word. And I even areas or stuff like this. But anyhow, no, I’m being serious.

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Jeff
And you go there.

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Doreen
No, it’s not bad. It’s not bad. But yeah, it’s a sense of community, right? A sense of community with you, which I think is always important when you’re going through a divorce.

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Jeff
Well, I also think that, I guess I can call you a Yogi when you are a Yogi and you’re around another Yogi. There’s that sense of what you’re going through and what you’re doing. Yeah, that already makes you, kind of bonded. Yeah. You know, and there may be an a friendship or so developing in the future or whatever, but, you know, you go there, you know, 3 or 4 times a week.

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Doreen
I want to talk about something. I’m going to go into the weeds, go ahead. How come people don’t want to talk to anybody anymore?

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Jeff
Is your weed good?

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Doreen
Like I, I try to say hello to people. Yeah. You know, as I’m putting my mat down in this yoga place is very crowded generally. So, like, you’re literally what I don’t know.

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Jeff
And inches away.

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Doreen
From the next mat. And it’s like people still want to look at anybody anymore. I, I really try to say hello to people I don’t know, I guess that’s an episode.

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Jeff
Well, the best thing I could say is don’t give up. Yeah, it’s not you.

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Doreen
I think it’s social media, but.

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Jeff
It could be. Could be.

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Doreen
I think people live in their phones, so it would be nice for us to have a non, a non cell phone. A day. And it’s thinking.

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Jeff
Anyhow let’s talk about support.

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Doreen
No you want to talk about support. Go ahead.

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Jeff
Well I think that support is important that you have someone or you try to find someone that can meet up with you or, you know, workout buddy, you know, workout buddy that can or go buddy to help you show up. Absolutely. Yeah. If I know that you’re at the gym waiting for me, you probably. And I have to be there.

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Jeff
I’m definitely going to go. Yeah. And I’ll probably be on time as well.

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Doreen
I think that that’s true.

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Jeff
Yeah.

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Doreen
Accountability. Also let’s talk about being like kind to yourself and realistic. Right. So there’s this cumulative effect a lot of people know the concept. But in with working out it’s a cumulative effect. Right. You’re not going to see you’re not going to go pump iron. And like you know you might get a little bit of a pump in and your biceps are showing more.

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Doreen
But the bottom line is it takes time and consistency and all the things. So look, if you can only give yourself 15 minutes in a given day to go workout instead of saying no, it’s only 15 minutes. A yeah, it’s 15 minutes of that cumulative that. So be realistic with your time and don’t fault yourself if you and be okay with I can do 15 minutes.

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Doreen
I had an moment on that because I was of the belief that, oh, I’ve got to go in. I this is when I was doing more the way I.

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Jeff
Remember and oh, I’ve got a moment.

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Doreen
I’ve gotta hit this body part and not body part. I’ve got to do this many, you know, sets and this many reps and all the things, but I can’t fit that into my schedule. And then one day I just said, but so what if I can go for 15 minutes or a half an hour and I can’t do an hour, I’ll get half of the workout in or I’ll get, you know, I was like.

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Jeff
Yeah, it’s better than nothing.

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Doreen
Better than nothing.

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Jeff
You know, the other thing I had an moment is when you’re thinking about, it’s accumulative. I maybe that’s why people don’t work out as much as they should or as many people work out it as they should because they don’t see the results right away. And we’re so instant gratification. Our society right now that it takes months to get in shape.

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Doreen
It does.

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Jeff
You know, years to really see a difference in the mirror. And if they don’t see it after a few days, they’re like, yeah, it’s not working.

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Doreen
I know, I know, but it does. It does work. I mean, you were proof of that.

00:21:33:16 – 00:21:34:15
Jeff
What? Well.

00:21:34:17 – 00:21:40:10
Doreen
I mean, just look at me. I’m like the epitome of,

00:21:40:12 – 00:21:44:15
Jeff
Everybody just put the YouTube right now, but,

00:21:44:17 – 00:21:48:07
Doreen
No, but it does, it does, it does it does work out.

00:21:48:11 – 00:22:10:15
Jeff
You know, it it does. But I think if if you are not in the shape that you would like to be in, right? Look at the workout as the mental benefits, as the intrinsic benefits and what you’re getting at it for you. Yes. Not for somebody else. Right. And I think that might keep you on a a little more motivated track.

00:22:10:20 – 00:22:15:09
Doreen
I agree with you that let’s talk about the primitive brain okay. And working out the body.

00:22:15:09 – 00:22:16:15
Jeff
Reset I’m thinking about the.

00:22:16:15 – 00:22:20:01
Doreen
Permanent okay. Yeah. Why?

00:22:20:03 – 00:22:23:00
Jeff
You saying how good you. Hey.

00:22:23:02 – 00:22:41:17
Doreen
Well, I say that because what’s going to happen is you’re going to now think about hopefully this episode, you’re going to think about what am I going to what what steps am I going to take to body reset. Right. How much weight going to want to lose? How do I want to get in shape? What exercise program is best for me?

00:22:41:17 – 00:23:04:02
Doreen
Hopefully you’re going to do all that right. That’s why we’re here for you guys. We’re hoping that you get motivated. But then what’s going to happen is you’re going to do all the things, you’re going to get everything set up, maybe even go as far as, like me, put it on your calendar. And then that time is going to come tomorrow morning at 6:00, where you planned to get up, get up a little earlier and go to the gym.

00:23:04:02 – 00:23:06:06
Jeff
Oh, those covers are so good.

00:23:06:06 – 00:23:10:03
Doreen
Oh, and then you’re going to wake up and it’s raining outside.

00:23:10:05 – 00:23:10:11
Jeff
In the.

00:23:10:11 – 00:23:36:19
Doreen
Room, and it’s nice and cold in the room, and you’re feeling all cozy. And maybe you didn’t sleep so well and you’re thinking, yeah, I could just do this later, or you know what? I’ll start tomorrow, or I’ll go after work and guess what happens doesn’t happen. Doesn’t happen. That’s your primitive brain. It might also say I have a lot of work to do.

00:23:36:23 – 00:24:08:08
Doreen
The kids need me. All the other justifications that your primitive brain recognize that trying to get you out of doing the hard things. So we have our prefrontal, our thinking human brain that can say, wait a second, primitive brain. I expected to see you this morning at 6 a.m., and I knew you were going to come visit with me and tell me all the things and reasons why I should give up my workout, but I’m not going to listen to you.

00:24:08:10 – 00:24:19:04
Doreen
So just recognize that. Just recognize when your brain is taking over. I like to do, I like to put it on my calendar. I do, you know, I do that.

00:24:19:04 – 00:24:19:17
Jeff
Yes.

00:24:19:22 – 00:24:29:22
Doreen
You follow it, I follow it because then I feel guilty if I don’t. Right. Yeah. And then I also like to take my clothes out the day before and say, oh.

00:24:30:00 – 00:24:30:17
Jeff
Workout clothes.

00:24:30:17 – 00:24:46:15
Doreen
Yeah, yeah. And if I’m going to workout and I’ll say I’m going to bring a yoga mat, I have all that ready to go. Right? So set for up for success. Okay. What else?

00:24:46:17 – 00:25:02:01
Jeff
Well, I think that when you talk about your primitive brain and the prefrontal cortex, it’s almost like that angel on one shoulder and the devil on the other shoulder. Yeah, it is, you know, and they’re battling back and forth with you, and you have to choose your battles.

00:25:02:03 – 00:25:03:07
Doreen
You have to choose your battles.

00:25:03:07 – 00:25:04:04
Jeff
Choose your battles.

00:25:04:06 – 00:25:31:08
Doreen
But you control it. And today’s word is just do it anyhow, even though you don’t want to just get up. Define with that body reset looks like for you and just do it. Just make it happen and understand. Again, it’s a cumulative effect. It’s going to make you feel better. It’s going to help with stress. It’s going to help you to get out of the house.

00:25:31:10 – 00:25:37:07
Doreen
It’s going to help you to make a community. It’s going to help you to what.

00:25:37:09 – 00:25:38:14
Jeff
How to feel better.

00:25:38:16 – 00:25:42:10
Doreen
You know, feel better. So there’s so much positive.

00:25:42:13 – 00:25:46:06
Jeff
Why body reset? Why do we call it body reset?

00:25:46:06 – 00:25:46:22
Doreen
You tell me.

00:25:47:03 – 00:26:10:22
Jeff
Well, I think I’m the reason I like the term body reset is allowing your divorce, to restart your goals, restart your life, begin anew. Right. And when you have goals, most people’s goals, I would think, especially in the years, are of the physical.

00:26:11:00 – 00:26:11:08
Doreen
What?

00:26:11:10 – 00:26:12:10
Jeff
New years?

00:26:12:12 – 00:26:14:11
Doreen
New years. Yeah. Okay.

00:26:14:11 – 00:26:20:12
Jeff
So people, their New Year’s goals are to get in shape, you know, get get healthy and. Yeah. And get into the gym.

00:26:20:15 – 00:26:22:02
Doreen
Well why wait to New Year?

00:26:22:03 – 00:26:23:00
Jeff
That’s what I’m saying.

00:26:23:01 – 00:26:23:20
Doreen
Let’s do it now.

00:26:24:01 – 00:26:24:17
Jeff
Do it now.

00:26:24:17 – 00:26:31:06
Doreen
Let’s go right now. Well smash up the. So everybody get off the podcast and go get your coat, your gym clothes on and let’s go.

00:26:31:08 – 00:26:42:23
Jeff
Let’s go to the gym.We’re going to the gym. All right everybody. Well, on that note, I think we’ll go change into our workout clothes and go for a nice walk.

00:26:42:23 – 00:26:51:06
Doreen
Absolutely. All right, everybody, listen, have an amazing day. Be kind to yourself and others. And remember, you two can have.

00:26:51:07 – 00:26:52:10
Jeff
An amazing life.

00:26:52:12 – 00:26:53:10
Doreen
After divorce.

00:26:53:11 – 00:26:55:06
Jeff
Bye bye bye.